Halloween Or NAH?

Hey Family,

Someone asked me what type of costume I was getting this year for Juju’s first Halloween. And my first response was he’s not wearing a costume, he’s a baby. And they asked me why and I said because I never wore costumes or went trick or treating so no need for him to do that either. And they said to me, you’re simply depriving him of something just because you couldn’t do it. So I talked to my Best Friend ever about it, MY HUSBAND!!!!!

And he said I see nothing wrong with getting him a cute little costume and taking pictures of him in it or him going trick or treating. He said when he grew up, they did not get to dress up or anything but they did go trick or treating. I’m like really, Babe, I NEVER got to go trick or treating! In fact, I never got to wear costumes either and I was even taken out of daycare and preschool when they had Halloween parties and events for the kids. So he said, well we can’t just deprive him of things just because we didn’t have them. And I thought hmmmm, “Am I depriving him of something simply because I didn’t get to do it”? So I told Jim to let me think a little more about it since something in me was just against putting him in one and I had to further investigate what that “something” was.

I didn’t want to over spiritualize it, as my husband would say lol! But I did want to give it some more thought because I still wasn’t too beat about it. So I ended up looking up the Origin of Halloween. I know what y’all thinking. Oh boy, Sharmaine it’s really not that deep! But it was for me so I researched it and found that it originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts.

On Halloween, when it was believed that ghosts came back to the earthly world, people thought that they would encounter ghosts if they left their homes. To avoid being recognized by these ghosts, people would wear masks and dress up as ghosts and witches and goblins when they left their homes after dark so that the ghosts would mistake them for fellow spirits which were evil spirits. So, to keep ghosts away from their houses, people would place bowls of food outside their homes to appease the ghosts and prevent them from attempting to enter. So basically they would either have to trick the ghosts or give them treats so they would be left alone.

I’m like all of this just sounds dark, scary and not so fun at all. I immediately thought of Philipians 4:8.

People throwing eggs, and vandalizing people’s homes are not something to be representing the night before. It didn’t represent light, lovely, and sweet things. And I realized that although it does seem rather harmless to put him in a pumpkin or batman costume and take him trick or treating, what it represents to me does not seem so harmless. And I realized that that “something” that was getting to me about dressing him up was simply conviction. So I explained it to my husband who said, I knew you would research it all; that’s what you do”. But after talking to me about it, he mentioned that he never thought about it that way either and we made the decision together, Nah, no costumes for Prince Juju. He’s not deprived of anything and neither was I. I was always at church on Halloween anyway in some kind of play or somewhere enjoying a “Holy Ghost” party so together we decided that’s a no on the costume for Halloween. This is not a law; this is simply MY conviction. Some people are so over the top that they turn every little thing into a law and try to divide groups of people based on a conviction that THEY have. Does that mean that when my nieces and nephews have on their costumes and their looking adorable, I’m going to preach to their parents and condemn them about it! Absolutely NOT! I love seeing them enjoy themselves.

A friend disclosed to me that it was her conviction to stop eating meat and become a vegetarian. I was super supportive and understood why she wanted to make this change in her life. She didn’t beat me in the head with a reason why it’s a law. And I’m not going to stop pork chopping it up because of her conviction either. That’s between her and God and I support her 100%. Why do we have to be divided because I eat meat and she doesn’t. Why should my sisters and I be divided because their kids go trick or treating and mine doesn’t?

Another friend of mine’s conviction is drinking any kinds of alcohol because it’s a generational curse and in her family line alcoholism is a huge deal. It doesn’t mean that she isn’t going to be friends with us if we want to enjoy a glass of wine at an event. It just means that, that is her conviction and we refuse to be divided about something some one is working on.



It’s like church for example. Back in the day, you dressed up to go to church. In the Presbyterian Church, women wore super huge hats and suits and men wore suits with ties and jackets. That was the culture and the tradition and some churches still follow it to this day which isn’t wrong but then they start turning it into a law about what one should wear to church. Like you’re any less holy if you have on jeans and a polo, along with some sneakers. One Pastor preached to his congregation in Skinny/ripped jeans and there are other pastors who wear robes. I know plenty of people on fire for God that wears skinny jeans, t shirts and heels to service. They don’t love the Lord any less than those who wear hats and suits. If it’s your conviction to wear hats and suits, DO YOU! If you are comfortable in casual clothes or you possibly have to run in work after service so you are even in a uniform during service, DO YOU!

Let’s group hug for a minute because we are divided for absolutely no reason. If we spent less time judging and being divided over the silliest little things and stop getting overly offended by what someone chooses to do, I think we could get a lot more done and we would have more unity!

Stay Tuned!

  • We are enjoying our babymoon at the House of Bread and off to Myrtle Beach in a few days!
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  • First Trimester is OVER. Second Trimester has begun!

We Love you like crazy,

Team Holmes

Guess WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


So guess what’s up with Team Holmes!


First of all, let me just start by saying I absolutely miss every single one of you! It seems like it’s been forever so I figured since I have a bit of time, I needed to catch you guys up on a few things! First of all, We Are Back LOL!

So where do I even start??? We left off with the 31 days of marriage back in the month of May where we all were inspired to get some wisdom back up in our relationships and let me tell you, I had to put all of those practices to use these past couple of months lol! Then in June, we were calling all vendors because we will be launching our accessories business, Heavenly Accessories really soon. We had plans to do it the Month of October but with all of our latest news, we decided to put it off for just a couple more months, but not to worry. We should be having a really good sale for all of you guys before Christmas!

So down to the juicy news. I was preparing to write you guys in August but on August 5, 2017, we found out the most shocking news we could ever imagine and we not at all prepared for! WE ARE EXPECTING ANOTHER BABY! Now when I tell you this was absolutely positively NOT planned, I mean it. We were so shocked we didn’t know what to do with ourselves. Then, we went to the doctor to make sure that we weren’t crazy and we found out we are actually having another baby. I’m like, for real Jesus. You do know I just had a baby? Am I ready for another one? Can I even handle the one I have? All sorts of things entered my mind, but I had to suck it up because this is about to GO DOWN! So we have just been preparing ourselves and our home to fit yet another member of the Holmes Family.

Now get this, the new baby is also due in April, so Juju is now having an IRISH TWIN. The new baby and Prince Julian are only a week apart. How crazy is that y’all! They could even have the same birthday! Julian is getting so big now and he is 6 months old.

Right now he is enjoying sitting up, trying to walk, eating sweet potatoes, oatmeal, pears, peaches, applesauce and a variety of other things. He is just as bubbly and sweet as can be. His first word, of course, was Dada! he get a millions kisses a day and loves smiling and chit chatting with people. He also LOVES music and his favorite television show to date is Mickey Mouse Clubhouse!

Now for the sex of the new baby!!!!!! OMG guys, We are having another BOY! Can you believe it! We thought for sure we were having a girl since there are so many girls on both sides of our family. But God is blessing us with boys and we are grateful. So we will be welcoming Julius James Holmes in April 2018! I am officially outnumbered. I am 15 weeks pregnant this week and am doing very well. Julius is an active little man. He is already doing somersaults in my belly. I got to see him on the ultrasound and he is quite the busy bee already. I am grateful and thankful that my pregnancy is going very well and I am feeling great.

Keep us ALL in your prayers. Oh and PS, we celebrated our 2 year Anniversary on September 19th, so next week I will share photos and Jim and I will be on here together talking about what we learned from marriage the second year!

Stay Tuned! We love you like crazy!

Team Holmes