31 Days To A Wiser Marriage: Day 10

To Do: Read Proverbs 10

Focus Point: Proverbs 10:12-13

I absolutely love this scripture because it made me examine the word hate and how loosely we use the term. We say we hate when our spouse leaves their clothes every where, or we hate when they do this or that or we hate traffic or we hate doing the dishes. We can be extreme but we don’t actually HATE our spouses. I notice in my own life that the more I speak these hatreds out of my mouth, the more they manifest themselves into my life and cause me to argue and pick fights with my husband. He could do something as simple as drop a cheerio on the floor and I’m screaming about how I HATE being his maid and feeling under appreciated. Everything gets so blown out of proportion because of things I claim to hate about my husband. But I had to learn to operate in love and speak the love that I have for my husband. So when I see socks on the floor or a drop of juice in the fridge when he could have just drank it, I can smile and say, I love this man. I end up picking up the socks or just drinking the last little bit of orange juice out of the carton and throw it out and then laugh about it. I started to change my mindset and think about why I love my husband instead of focusing on what I claimed to hate about him.

When you change your thinking, you change your life. Begin to think on why you married your spouse and why you love them. Think of all of the things about them that make you so happy and you’ll be sure to overlook dirty socks on the floor. As a wife, I’m a help meet and I was designed to help him. You know how we do when we’re single and ain’t got no man how we flag God down in prayer about how we goinna love him and serve him and do everything he needs us to do LOL.

Marriage is work indeed but who says it’s a job you can’t absolutely love. When you do have an argument with your spouse, use godly wisdom and discipline in your disagreements. Never seek to harm this person and don’t bring up the past.

Affirmation of the day:

My spouse and I always operate in love when we have disagreements.

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