Think, Do, and Be Positive

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Affirmation for Today

EVERYTHING I DO ATTRACTS MORE PROSPERITY INTO MY LIFE!

Is Your Money Being Longer Worth Your Life Span Being Shorter?

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This question struck a nerve when I heard it. On Saturday evening I was hanging out in the house with my husband and he said, “Baby listen to this battle rap; it’s a classic.” So I’m washing dishes and listening to this battle, and we get to the third round in the battle and rapper Loaded Lux goes in with this question:

“Is your money being longer worth your life span being shorter?”

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This statement had my mind going so much so that I stopped listening to the battle and ran in the living room and wrote it down and continued to repeat it to myself.  We live in a society where we are taught to get rich or die trying and do what it takes to earn the almighty dollar. We want to be successful soooooo bad that we don’t eat properly, don’t get any rest, and over work ourselves.  What good is it to work yourself literally to DEATH and are not able to enjoy the fruit of your labor.  Okay so your money is much longer now, but someone else has to spend it because you killed yourself getting it!!! You worked yourself day and night, drinking energy drinks while depriving yourself of sleep just so that your coins could stretch a little longer. So my question again to you is, Is your money being longer worth your life span being shorter?  I had to ask myself this question as well because sometimes I am so focused on the plan that I have for success in life not realizing that I absolutely have to stay balanced in order to avoid burn out.

I’m not suggesting that we should not work hard and be diligent about taking action concerning our futures but that we should not kill ourselves in the process. I don’t personally believe that we should get rich or die trying especially if that is the only goal. Go after the purpose that God has for you, because your purpose is bigger than you. When you pursue the purpose that God has for you the money is going to come.  God is going to fund what He called you to do. I had to remember that God is the unfailing, unlimited source of our supply so we don’t have to kill ourselves going after coins.  I’ll let Jim discuss how he feels about it!

What’s good world it’s Ya Boy!

I love my battle rap and I was surprised that my wife listened with me and took something from it. She literally ran out of the kitchen into our living room to go get a pen and write it down. When she didn’t come right back into the kitchen, I went to see what she was up to and she was sitting there thinking, so we started discussing this question. I know it had her thinking a lot about us and how I work two really demanding jobs.  My answer to the question, Is your money being longer worth your life span being shorter” is ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! I will admit that I have a huge responsibility as a husband to provide and I take that seriously so I do tend to work about 16 hours out of the day. I live off very little sleep and will admit energy drinks (which are terrible for you) have been my meal of choice, but since I know better, I’m doing much better and cut those drinks out and started to eat more healthy meals and get more rest. I also have a goal in mind. Me working two jobs will not always be my story. It is something I am doing now because I have a plan for our future but it isn’t something I will be doing forever. So there definitely has to be a balance. There is nothing wrong with working, going to school, and plain ole grinding while you’re focused on a goal but there is something wrong with killing yourself just to get money. We all want our coins, but pursue purpose, stay focused and trust God in everything that you do and your success will come and you will LIVE to enjoy it!

Have an awesome week! We love you like crazy!

Love Always,

Jim and Maine

Enjoy!

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Take the time out to do something fun this weekend! Something that you WANT to do; not something you HAVE to do. A lot of times we work all week long and when we get home we may be too tired to do anything accept cook, lay down. and start the day all over again. Once the weekend comes, we catch up on chores, grocery shopping, and cleaning up. Before you know it, it’s Sunday night and you’re getting yourself ready for work again.  You are wondering where the time went and how the weekend went by so quickly and it is because you WORKED all weekend. So get out and do something enjoyable!

Love You Guys,

Team Holmes

Soul Mates Are Not Born!

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Notes from the Marriage School! Pastor Charles taught us the myths of the soul mate. The part that stood out to me the most was the statement: Soul mates are not born; they’re made! They are made in the trenches of life. So don’t be fooled by the myth that you’re going to be exactly the same, that you’re not going to have any problems, and that this person is going to ALWAYS make you happy; NOT GONNA HAPPEN!!

Tuesday has been my favorite day of the week because of the Marriage School. I would like to invite you to come out and check it out. It’s 1 dynamic hour and we discuss everything. The goal of the Marriage School is to inform, instruct and inspire you in all areas of relationship. You can be married, divorced, or single. We get sound Biblical instructions for ALL relationships. Come on out; I guarantee you will be blessed!

Where: Seeds of Greatness Fellowship Church

Address: 138 South Orange Ave, South Orange New Jersey

Time: 7 pm – 8 pm (Just ONE hour)

Also Worship service starts at 10:00 A.M. Every Sunday Morning

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to email me: maine@holmesconfessionbooth.com

Be blessed!

#TeamHolmes

Get Rid Of Debt

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IT IS MUCH BETTER TO

WORK HARD AND PLAY LATER

THAN TO

PLAY NOW AND WORRY LATER

Be sure to pay off your debts. No one wants to go to the mailbox every single day and find nothing but bills, bills, and more bills. This leads some people to both discouragement as well as depression because the pressure will cause you not to be able to SEE your way out. We often charge things that we can not afford, not realizing we are spending tomorrow’s prosperity today. Romans 13:8 says, Keep out of debt and owe no man anything, except to love one another (AMP Version). So do what you can to get rid of debt and live a prosperous life.

LOVE YOU MUCH

#TeamHolmes

Success in Life

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I AM BALANCED

PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY, MENTALLY, AND SOCIALLY!

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Stay Balanced!

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We have to be reminded to avoid burn out and maintain balance in every aspect of our lives, which includes spiritual, emotional, physical, mental , and social  balance.  I learned this lesson in balance during my quiet time while I was reading 1 Kings chapter 19. The story was about Elijah who had just made fools out of the 450 prophets of Baal and then personally slain each and every one of them with a sword. When a woman named Jezebel heard of what he did, she threatened to do the same to him. He became afraid for his life and arose and went to Beersheeba.  He traveled a day’s journey into the wilderness and sat down under a juniper tree and asked the Lord if he may die. He says in 1 kings 19:4, “It is enough: now, O  Lord, take away my life; for I am no better than my fathers.” So to make a long story short, while he was asleep, an angel of the Lord woke him up to eat.  He laid back down and the angel came a second time to wake him up and feed him. This nourishment gave him the strength to travel 40 days and 40 nights to Mount Sinai.  So basically God gave him two good naps and two good meals to get him strong enough for his next assignment. Elijah was just simply worn out from everything he had done and went through the day before. This taught me that staying spiritually strong does include natural wisdom. We have to take care of our body by exercising and eating healthy so that we have the physical stamina to complete all of the tasks God has for us.

Relationships often suffer many problems from being out of balance which causes one to be worn out. Usually when we are totally exhausted, we lose patience, get our feelings hurt faster and respond quite differently than when we have had enough rest. We are much more touchy than usual and we become more vulnerable to depression and discouragement and in Elijah’s case, even suicidal.  In many families, both husband and wife are working to provide for their children. They have to work all day, then come home and take care of their children, then cook meals, do laundry, go grocery shopping, do house work, pay bills, attend church, serve in different church ministries, and the list goes on. Without the proper balance, sooner or later they become exhausted. I know I have certainly felt exhausted at times. I’ll let Jim explain how he feels about balance.

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I think balance is very important. I have been telling my wife this for years (Although she wasn’t my wife at the time lol)! Both of us are very busy. I work two demanding jobs, I’m head of a house hold, a husband, a brother, a son, and a friend. My wife is a wife, a keeper of the home, she cooks, she cleans, she serves at church, she works a full time job and she is co owner of our blog so she spends time writing with me. Then she has to make time to spend with friends and family. Our schedules are crazy busy and we can get pulled in all different directions. I didn’t even mention the important fact that we need balanced time ALONE just with ourselves. My wife’s thing is to read books, go to the book store and get lost in the world of knowledge, go to the nail salon and get a pedicure and manicure, and workout. I make her go because I know she needs that time to herself, or she will start to feel unhappy and stressed. Because I work so much, my thing is to just lay down and DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Whatever it is that you like to do, make sure you do it. I enjoyed the story of Elijah from 1 Kings 19.  He was literally on top of the world after killing all of those prophets of Baal, and then all of a sudden he running scared from Jezebel, who was just ONE person??? His story shows us that we can start to think crazy if we don’t balance out our physical, emotional, social and spiritual lives.  We truly believe God wants us to be blessed, not stressed so we have to be strong and refreshed, not exhausted.

Have an awesome week and Happy Belated Mother’s Day to all of you moms!

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Until Next Time,

Team Holmes

 

 

 

Woman, you are beautiful!!!

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We live in a society that will make us believe we need all kinds of enhancements to be beautiful. We will manipulate every part of us; our hair, facial structure, our tummy, skin complexion, implants, and even our lips to live up to a standard of beauty that isn’t natural, as if who we already are is NOT beautiful.

Proverbs 139:14 teaches us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. We don’t have to conform to the world’s way of thinking, especially concerning our beauty. The mouth is certainly a weapon. People can say some things that will change the way you feel about your own self. Ok, so here’s my Holmes Confession: When I was growing up, people would always say something a long the lines of, “You’re pretty for a DARK girl”. I always thought to myself why can’t I just be “regular” pretty? It made me feel like not only was I not preferred because I was dark skinned, but that I may actually look better if only I was a little lighter.  It forced me to believe I had to be so much better, so much smarter, so much nicer, much more fit and something more “extra” than who I was because being dark wasn’t on my side.

Now that’s just crazy, but look at how extreme a person can go from simply not feeling like they are pretty enough. Take rapper, Lil Kim for example. Below is a photo of her the way we know her from the 90s, and in 2016 she has completely changed her look and here is what she had to say about it.

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In an interview with Newsweek she says, “All my life men have told me I wasn’t pretty enough–even the men I was dating. And I’d be like, ‘Well, why are you with me, then?’ ” She winces. “I have low self-esteem and I always have,” she says. “Guys always cheated on me with women who were European-looking. You know, the long-hair type. Really beautiful women that left me thinking, ‘How I can I compete with that?’ Being a regular black girl wasn’t good enough.” And the implants? “That surgery was the most pain I’ve ever been in in my life,” says Kim. “But people made such a big deal about it. White women get them every day. It was to make me look the way I wanted to look.”

God is not pleased with us bashing ourselves and thinking negatively towards who we are. I had plain old STINKING THINKING, just like Lil Kim. I, of course, don’t think that way anymore. It’s ridiculous and it’s pure nonsense. I am the Daughter of the King, fearfully and wonderfully made by the Almighty God. I am BEAUTIFUL, just like her and so are YOU. So don’t let anyone tell you different or make you feel different!

Know who you are in Christ!

This is my Holmes Confession

Be blessed all day!

Love Always,

Maine Holmes

 

Choose to Build Up, Not Tear Down

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Watch that hammer in your mouth. You can either build

your husband up or tear him down with your words.

Choose to build and remember that it benefits you to speak life

into your spouse because you are ONE.

Be Blessed!

Love Always,

Team Holmes

Hey Watch That Hammer!

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Did you know that some marriages have been completely destroyed only because of what one spouse is saying to the other. The issue of bashing spouses has become a huge issue in marriage. Other marriages are on the verge of collapsing simply because they don’t realize that what they are saying is pulling down their marriage. When you use your mouth to bring down the other person with whom you’re in relationship with, you are doing damage to yourself as well, and what you speak is ultimately what you will receive. And as you keep confessing these things, you will continue to see a manifestation of what you are calling them. If you are constantly calling your wife a witch, then you will have created a full blown witch in your household, and not only will you be the husband of a witch, you too will be considered a witch. The Bible says that in marriage the two shall become one, correct? (See Mark 10:8). So if you are joined together with your spouse then you are going to become what you are calling them!

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Watch that HAMMER of yours! If you are going to be using it on your spouse, then it must be for something good and begin to build them up. I get that when we get angry, crazy things fly out of our mouths and we use them on our spouses without thinking, but now that we realize the weight of what we are doing, we have to change what we are saying and the way we are saying them.

Alright Bible scholars, what are we taught in Romans 4:17? We are taught to call those things that be not as though they were, so if this is the case, then we should be calling our spouses what we want to see, not what we see physically.  Maybe your spouse is acting funny, but call forth the virtues  you would like to see vs the vices you may be seeing!

Remember that words are so powerful and the Bible teaches us in Proverbs 18:21, that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof”. Your use of words are like using a hammer. You can build some really good things with a hammer, but you can also destroy some really good things with that exact same tool. Use the weapon in your mouth to build up your spouse and not to destroy the person you already have. I know it is not going to always be easy, but always keep in mind that you are sowing a seed when you speak and will eventually harvest later from whatever it is you are saying. In the midst of a heated discussion, watch your words, so that even if you are scolding, you are doing it in a way that is not bashing your spouse’s personality. You can try it from an encouraging perspective and let them know that you would like to see them operate in a way that you expect from them because you know they can and be sure to comment the good things they have done.

Continue to build your spouse up and keep in mind that when you’re building them up, you’re also building YOU up!

BE BLESSED ALL WEEK!

Coming up….

Continue to stay tuned; we have some awesome new things to share with you guys soon.

Hope you all had an awesome weekend. Here’s a clip of our Saturday! We did our Holmes Confession on the beach. It was freezing, but we had the best time ever!

LOVE ALWAYS,

JIM AND MAINE HOLMES