Plan Your Escape this weekend!

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Whatever you do this weekend, take the time out to enjoy your spouse and appreciate them! Go ahead and escape into your marriage. Be blessed and have an awesome weekend!

Love Always,

Team Holmes

We all have something to be grateful for!

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BE GRATEFUL!!

Sometimes we are going through a rough season in life that gets us down and we find ourselves complaining, complaining, complaining! I was having a bad start to my morning and was tempted to do just that until I remembered what date it was. It’s April 2016! My aunt, her best friend, my cousin and I were in a life changing accident April 25, 2011. The enemy tried to take us out of here and when that didn’t work he tried to destroy our relationships with one another, and steal our joy. He was on his job, as the thief comes not but to kill, steal, and destroy. He came for our lives but God had a plan for each and every one of us, and our word for that year was, We shall LIVE and NOT die! (Praise Break) WON’T GOD DO IT! We are all very much alive, doing awesome, and are BLESSED!

April 25, 2011 was 5 years ago and since then, God has blessed our lives more than we could imagine. Christyal, who we call Abby, and I have been blessed with husbands and are now married!

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During the time of the accident, the doctors tried to tell us all kinds of crazy things. Like I wouldn’t be able to move my neck again and will need surgery down the line, and that the affects of the accident will be with me my entire life. The devil is a liar, my neck is fine, the fracture is healed and I haven’t received any surgery in 5 years and don’t plan on having any.  Christyal was told she wasn’t going to be able to walk again or have children but who’s report are we to believe?????? Yes, the report of the Lord! She didn’t just have 1, but 2 of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen! Look at them!!!! Aren’t they gorgeous????

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We have gone on to do many things over this past 5 years and God is still blessing us. Since then, I have graduated twice, Abby has relocated to beautiful Las Vegas, we are closer than we have ever been as we don’t go a day without speaking to eachother, Taleia has started a new career in the house keeping industry in Las Vegas, Holmes Confession Booth has been birthed out of my marriage, and there are so many things to come. I say all of this to say that God’s hand is on our lives and the moment we want to get down and start complaining, let us think on the timeline of our lives and remind ourselves of how God has kept us.

Surely you can find something to be grateful for every single day. When you wake up in the morning, say 3 things you are grateful for to jump start your day; I even go as far as writing them down. You’ll have much better days ahead when you begin being grateful for the things you have daily!

This is my Holmes Confession!

Be blessed and encouraged today!

Love Always,

Maine Holmes

 

What are you asking yourself?

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I love this quote from Voltaire that says,

“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”

You guys know that we are always studying the habits of the wealthy and found 10 very interesting questions millionaires ask themselves during their path to purpose. We began to ask our own selves these questions and it had us deep in thought so we thought we would share them with you guys.

  1. How would I act if I knew that I would be getting what I want tomorrow? Basically, if you were 100% sure of your future, how would you act if you knew every single thing would come to fruition? Some of us need faith to activate the promise within us.
  2. Did I do everything I could today to make tomorrow the way I want it to be? Make everyday count towards your success.
  3. What is my life’s mission? What did God call you to do? Think of things you absolutely love; all of those activities that get you excited and enthusiastic, and make you feel most alive.
  4. If there is one goal I must accomplish, what would it be? Set your intentions and begin working on accomplishing this goal within the next 3 months.
  5. How would the person I would like to be do what I am about to do? This question allows you to behave like the person you are striving to be. So basically, in 5 years, would I be making the decisions I am making today?
  6. What are 3 major improvements that I can make within the next 30 days? We all have improvements that constantly nag at us, but instead of running away from them, we should address them and enhance ourselves by dealing with these issues.
  7. What did I want that I didn’t ask for today? Millionaires leverage their responsibilities by asking for help. Almost everything you need is a phone call, email, or text away.
  8. If I could change one thing about myself that is holding me back, what would it be? This could be a tough question, but whether a person is struggling financially, would like to exercise more, maybe want to stop smoking, whatever it may be, take the steps to deal with them as soon as possible.
  9. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far? List the moments you are proud of as well as times you’ve succeeded and find out why you succeeded. In these accomplishments, you are able to find some of your greatest strengths.
  10. What would I do if I had one billion dollars? This question allows you to think without limitations. List every single thing you would want to do. Of course our first thought is to travel the world, give money to family, and buy a few houses but after that, what would you do with your time????? This allows you to discover what you really want to do when you remove the limitations.

 

These questions definitely make you think. But taking time to answer them will make you change your perspective and help you implement your strengths, passions, values, desires, and motivations into your every day lives. Be blessed on your path to purpose and stay encouraged.

Love Always,

Team Holmes

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Single Mom Superheros

 

 
 

We just wanted to take the time to shout out all of you single mothers. You think nobody sees you and that you are all alone, but you’re not! Someone is always watching you. We are watching you and we look up to you. You have the longest resume we have ever seen. You’re not only a doctor, nurse, teacher, maid, cook, provider, protector, and heroine.  You’re also the domestic engineer, the general executive, the private investigator, the project foreman, the household representative, the chief financial officer, and the maintenance manager! If we may put it simple, You’re just a Superhero in disguise!

Superheros have such special powers and you even get tired sometimes but Hebrews 4:16 says, Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in the time of need. KJV

All of you beautiful single mothers wear your capes proudly as we salute you as our superheros! Be blessed all day!

Love Always,

Team Holmes

 

Stay Focused!

 

Hey Guys, It’s Team Holmes here giving you some daily inspiration.

For this week, we encourage you all to STAY FOCUSED!

Being too busy is not an acceptable excuse for not staying focused on what is truly important. Everyone sets his or her own schedule and we need to learn to establish boundaries. We must learn to say no when people ask us to do something that leads us away from peace.

Be honest with yourself and examine how you spend your time. Be intentional about putting God first and then your spouse. Don’t give God your leftovers. Ezekiel 20:40 says that we should bring to the Lord our firstfruits, the choicest selections of all of our offerings. Give Him the best of our time and our day, not what is left over from the day. Don’t give Him the portion of your day when you are worn out, can’t think straight or keep your eyes open. Give God the firstfruits of your attention, which is the best part of your day. If you are a morning person, then right before you do anything would be the best time to give to God. If you’re not a morning person and the best part of your day is in the evening, then set aside that time where you are awake and fresh and devote your best time to God.

Examine your priorities this week and get them in check. Make time for what’s important and try not be be busy with busyness. Set your intentions and stay focused. Also when putting your spouse first after God, of course, give him or her the best portion of you.

For example, if you’re a woman who takes the time to get dressed for work, making sure your hair is fly and you look good for your co-workers and clients, don’t come home and immediately throw on sweats and a hair bonnet. Why does the world get the best of your look? Why do we take time to get dolled up, with our make up, outfits, and hair but when we get home, our husbands don’t get to see our hair because we are too quick to wrap it up in a bonnet or scarf on. They want to see us looking good too!

If you’re a husband who works a lot and gives your job the best of you, do the same for your wife. Don’t always make her deal with the worn out you, where you are too worn or too sleepy to meet her needs. Get the proper rest so that when you have the time to spend with her, she gets the very best of you as well. Whatever it is that you need to focus on, be intentional about it this week! Stay focused!

Be blessed!

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Love Always,

Team Holmes

 

Don’t Let Go of Your Faith

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Continue to wait on the Lord. Don’t give up on Him and don’t lose faith in Him because you have yet to see the manifestation of your heart’s desires. He loves you and wants the very best for your life. Be encouraged sisters.

Love you like crazy,

Mainey

Choose Love

zombomeme20042016094110You may have an argument or just be plain old frustrated.

Hang in there, don’t lose hope, put your spouse first always,

and NEVER forget why you married them in the first place!

Be blessed all day! #teamholmes

10 Things TO Remind Yourself As a Single Christian Woman

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As a single Christian Woman, here are 10 things to remind yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY!

You are NOT the only one.

God DOES know your future.

And He knows the desires of your heart.

Not EVERY good, Christian guy is taken.

Yes, you are beautiful.

NO, It’s NOT too late.

Waiting is worth it.

Keep being friendly, happy and never bitter.

Being single is NOT a disease.

 

Let God Write Your Love Story

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Our God is so good! Let him write your love story for you. Wait on him and trust in him. My prayer for you is that you wait on God’s best for your life. Seek Him concerning all things and He will answer!

Love you Guys! I’m always praying for you!

Love,
Sharmaine Holmes

Submission??? What’s That???

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So we thought that we would discuss submission since for a lot of women it sounds somewhat like a curse word. For some reason we assume it’s synonym is door mat. Like I told you guys before, I had a single life that included doing as I pleased. I told ya’ll how I enjoyed traveling and going on vacation every year, even spending a month in Las Vegas. I have been attending the Marriage School at Seeds of Greatness for over 4 years now and we talk about submission all the time. It’s one of those subjects you know so much about but my Holmes confession is, I had no intention of ACTUALLY doing it!!!  WHY? Because it sounded like I would have to give up the power that I’ve had over myself and just give it to someone else and I wasn’t beat, plus I was a straight rebel. Ask my husband he will tell you! Terrible attitude but I’m just keeping it real. I’m like man please, I got my own stuff and I make my own money so ain’t nobody about to be telling me what to do. Talking about a hot mess and a half! But thank God for His word which taught me a some things about submission and ultimately changed my attitude about it. Let’s go to the Word!

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We are reading from Ephesians 5:21-26

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.

So the first part of this scripture says to submit to YOUR OWN HUSBAND!!! Not everyone else’s husband and not every man that comes into your life. In my quiet time, God gave me a revelation about this concept of submission that changed how I thought about it. First of all, I am the one who said I DO to my husband . I’m the one who chose to marry him; no one forced my hand, so no need to be complaining now. These are all things that popped into my head while I was spending time with God, and I thought about all the women who choose to marry men they are not willing to submit to. I thought about my husband because the Bible says submit to YOUR OWN HUSBAND as unto the Lord.  This meant to me that I take my husband out of the equation and do for him as if I’m doing for God. This makes it so much easier because I looooooooove the Lord! So if I’m mad at my husband, and I don’t feel like cooking for him, I immediately remember to serve him as unto the Lord. I know I would not behave that way to the Lord, so I don’t behave that way to my husband. It’s easy to roll my eyes, pop my neck, and mouth off to my husband. But it takes mountain moving strength to SHUT UP and be submissive to my husband and it is NOT always easy! I will have to admit that my husband makes it easy to submit to him because he absolutely shows me that he loves me like Christ loved the church. Now Christ died for the church! I have no doubt in my mind that my husband would give up his life for me because I have seen this in action with my own eyes. But what it more important is the way he dies to himself daily because he submits to God. What I found out is that when a wife is loved like Christ loves the church, then submission is not difficult.

Now the portion of the scripture that says, “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in EVERYTHING.” This verse is saying that the wife is to submit to her husband in everything that is right and lawful. I, as a wife am under no obligation to disobey the law or God in the name of submission. So
A wife should submit to her own husband, not because women are inferior, but because that is how God designed the marital relationship to function. Now I know that submission does not mean that I’m a door mat, that my husband controls me or that I don’t have my own mind. I’ll let Jim discuss his views on submission!

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So let me start off by saying yes, my wife can be super defiant and was quite the rebel. I think it’s easy for her to submit to me because she trusts me. I’m her best friend and always have her best interest at heart. She knows that I am never going to rule over her or keep her from doing anything. I wanted to discuss the part of the scripture that says,  “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” I believe some wives take this to the extreme. Pastor just taught a message today on “Doing The Right Thing.” (Yes, I was listening Pastor Charles lol). If you know your husband is telling you to break the law or do something you know to be wrong, you have no business submitting to anything illegal.  When I lived on Front Street in Plainfield, a dude actually had his wife prostituting to make money for their family. She continued to submit to man who was pimping her out because he didn’t want to work and what’s worse is they had small children.  It is most definitely important for women to marry a man who loves God and is connected to Him, because they will follow the principles of God. They will love you, know not to abuse you, and have your best interest at heart. You would be surprised what husbands have their wives doing these days. I’m not saying that just because a man loves Christ, that he is somehow perfect; I am not perfect and no one is except Jesus. But I am saying that because I do my part, I make it easier for my wife to do her part. I told ya’ll she was defiant. It would be so much more difficult for her to submit to me if I weren’t doing my part. As a married couple, each spouse has to focus on doing the part God told them to do! If God told me to love her like Christ loved the church then that’s my assignment no matter how she is behaving. My wife could be so hungry and have a headache and a stomach ache. She could be wyling out on me or telling me to leave her alone, but my job is to feed her, hug her and still love her regardless; not get frustrated and decide I’m not going to cook for her and take care of her; that’s when she needs me the most. I’m still on the job so I have to do my assignment regardless her of her behavior. I recently received a recognition award at work for being a great worker. I have an assignment to do and there are people who have worked there longer than me who have never received an award because of the way they choose to work. It isn’t my job to look at the next person and say, “Well I’m not going to put any effort in because I see everyone else being lazy.” No, I can’t worry about everybody else; I have to do my job, and my hard work paid off. Check it out below.

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So back to my wife, her assignment is do be submissive to her husband, so she has to do her part. I can’t change her and she can’t change me. We both have to do our part and keep God at the center of our marriage. There is no cookie cutter way for a person to all of a sudden began to submit but the best advice is to learn to trust your spouse daily and focus on your part.

Be encouraged all week!

Love you guys!

Team Holmes

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